Um, hello. Saying that not “all” gay guys think the above statement is enough. If you think that “feminine gays” are the reason gay people don’t have rights, you are buying into some really perverse and fucked up bullshit that promotes internalized homophobia and femmephobia.
Ever stop to think that there are people out there who want you to believe other gay people are the reason you don’t have rights rather than, oh I don’t know, the government and the religious right?
Fuck. Show me a gay man that thinks this and I’ll give him a piece of my goddamn mind.
Amen. The absolute worst is when I see other gay people with a chip on their shoulder about straight people. A lot of the other gay guys I know are douches. Straight guys are so much better to hang out with.
I call bullshit on every fucking level. First of all, “Way too many gay people demand respect simply because they’re gay.”? Really. I think that if we lived in a culture that didn’t dehumanize and disrespect people for being gay, demanding respect would not be necessary.
Also, “Way too many?” Fucking bullshit. I know way too many gay people who aren’t respected and I don’t know a goddamn one that demands respect on the basis that they prefer to have sex with people of the same gender. You can say “Way too many _____ people demand respect simply because they’re _____” about any group of people. This statement isn’t helping to change the stigma around identity. It’s telling people, “don’t you dare expect to be respected for being a human being who happens to be gay.” What it should be saying is all people should be respected for being who they are. And I’m going to make a prediction that even if one person told the author of this post that they demand respect for being gay, the statement would still read “way too many.”
Finally, every goddamned person on this planet is entitled to respect and dignity, regardless of sexual orientation. Maybe I’d entertain loopholes if a person in question murdered your entire family, but I generally think this is the fucking rule.
Fuck you. Fuck all of you who agree with this. Fuck your (internalized) homophobic bullshit agenda that wants to keep gay people oppressed and silent.
I demand your goddamn respect––for being a human fucking being who happens to be gay. And if you aren’t going to give it to me because you believe it’s unwarranted, you have your head up your asshole.
Spread this shit, people. Others need to know this level of idiocy exists.
I would like to start off by saying I rarely use the term “slut-shaming.” Here’s a couple reasons why:
- Not every person who has sex and enjoys it has reclaimed the word “slut.” It assumes everyone is comfortable with referring to themselves as such, but that’s not…
Mark Educates #2: Homelessness
[Image description: A screenshot from FB. Someone posts: “I believe that if you have half the brain in your head you should be able to make money. So I don’t really feel sorry for that “homeless” dude standing on the side of the freeway asking for money. Come on people- this is America. People flock here from different countries to find work and a better life. There should be no excuse for someone to bum it-None whatsoever.” I reply with: Mental illness, the lack of support for veterans after soldiers return from wars that rich white men create and profit from, the recent wave of vicious foreclosures, the constant erosion of work opportunities by a corporate environment that seeks to increase its bottom line through outsourcing, the ever-increasing decline in any sort of public assistance, the lack of affordable housing, lack of affordable health care, mental illness, domestic violence, sexual abuse, violent transphobia, homophobia, a culture and system of racism, addiction disorders and the public stigma that follows them, and the unbelievably complicated set of circumstances that might lead a person to have to choose between eating food, having a roof over their head, and meeting their basic needs as a human being. Oh, sorry, what’s that? You weren’t using half the brain in your head to figure this shit out? There really should be no excuse for that. None whatsoever. PS: I was homeless once in my life because I ran away from home to escape abuse. So I don’t tolerate this bullshit from anyone.]
Yes, I said mental illness twice.
Here’s an easy one: Don’t ever do this.
I said yes because I felt it was too much trouble to say no. I said yes because I didn’t want to have to defend my “no,” qualify it, justify it—deserve it. I said yes because I thought I was so ugly and fat that I should just take sex every time it was offered, because who knew when it would be offered again. I said yes because I believed what the kids at school told me—that the only way I could get laid was to be raped. I said yes to partners I never wanted in the first place, because to say no at any point after saying yes for so long would make our entire relationship a lie, so I had to keep saying yes in order to keep the “no” I felt a secret. This is such a messed up way to live, such an awful way to love
We have this entire culture that’s telling people that there’s One Right Thing To Want. Dudes, for instance, are supposed to have a high sex drive, to like porn, to enjoy casual sex, to be attracted to thin young feminine large-breasted women, to want anal sex and public sex and rough sex, to not want pegging and ageplay and vanilla missionary with the lights out. If you’re asexual you’re broken; if you like drag you’re a pervert and probably a pedophile; if you’re a male submissive you’re pathetic and unmasculine; if you’re queer you’re destroying America. I don’t understand why people do this: what possible gain could there be from reducing the vibrant rainbow of human sexuality to two colors (the dude color and the girl color)? Those two colors look much nicer as part of the whole spectrum.
Something (offensive) for everyone: ABC takes “Work It” off the air due to petition and outraged viewers
Quote from Change.org:
ABC’s new show “Work It” is about two men who cannot find a job, so they dress as women to get a job working in a women-only company. The show has something to offend just about everyone - it is rife with homophobic jokes, transphobic innuendo, and has inflamed some leaders in the Puerto Rican community for its offensive portrayal of a Puerto Rican character.
The show’s premise is also based on the sexist myth of the ‘mancession’ - the idea that women now outnumber men in the workforce because the recession disproportionately impacted men. While jobs are hard for everyone to find right now, this is blatantly untrue. Women still make up less than 50% of the paid workforce. Furthermore, women have fared far worse than men in the recovery from the recession. Of the 1.6 million jobs added to payrolls between November 2010 and November 2011, the IWPR estimates that30 percent were filled by women while 70 percent were filled by men. Furthermore, women still make 77 cents to the male dollar in most industries in the United States.
The show is also full of sexist stereotypes about how women live and behave, like being catty to one another at work and being constantly obsessed with their weight. The show constantly jokes that women are dumber than men and not as much is expected of women in the workplace. And the first episode even included a rape “joke!” And of course, ‘Work It’ also promotes racist stereotypes, homophobia, and discrimination against trans people. Still, ABC Entertainment head Paul Lee says he “just doesn’t get” why people are offended. He claims it was meant to be “a very, very silly show.”